"I feel like I am wearing a cape of exhaustion,” I sighed as I sunk into my chair. The spark that once lit up my eyes when I talked about leading this school has vanished, leaving behind a grayness. I feel the weight of expectations bearing down on me, and the pressure of being an expert in everything is draining.
Sound familiar?
My day started at 7 a.m., and I often stayed late supporting student events. I loved spending time in the classroom with students. My staff appreciated my approachability because my office door was always open, so they often sought guidance. Parents also asked for my expertise in supporting their children at home and frequently scheduled meetings to discuss their concerns.
I bet you have been there too. The year starts with optimism, and you work hard to be present and support your community. And there comes a time when you just get tired. You missed the signals of not doing all the things!
The reality is that I had been playing the hero role a little too much in my quest to be helpful. I had been telling everyone what to do instead of empowering them to find solutions. It's not that I should not help—I must step back in my approach.
How about you? What is your approach to helping and serving your community? How do you find balance?
How might my responses be creating my feelings of exhaustion?
How can I balance my desire to support my staff, students, and parents while ensuring I care for my well-being and avoid burnout?
What strategies can I implement to delegate, avoid taking on too much, and allow others to grow in their roles?
As a leader, you are often called to be the point person for fixing problems. However, this can create a relentless cycle of you plunging in to save the day. The truth is, sometimes, you must step back and let others take the lead. By taking over their problems, you create a sense of dependency on you that prevents others from growing their skills and addressing issues on their own.
When people are given space to share their thoughts, they find clarity, which helps them identify their best answers.
By leading with curiosity, you empower others to share their ideas and become their partner, supporting them in the process. Engaging them in thoughtful discussion reveals new solutions. You can encourage them by expressing appreciation for their willingness to lean in! Your simple acknowledgment shows them you are listening.
Asking, 'What do you think?' might help you regain your mojo!
The power of a simple question.
The power of a simple question.
Share appreciation and recognition for others' efforts and contributions.
“Leaders who are willing to say, 'I don't know', play a surprisingly powerful role in engaging the hearts and minds of employees."
- Amy Edmondson, The Fearless Organization (2019)